As this year begins to come to a close, (at least in the North American system of accounting for time) I am noticing that I am challenging myself to operate outside my comfort zone to seek opportunities and experiences I either put off out of fear or never thought to have until now.
I am a very social person so the thought of going out to eat or to the movies has always involved the inclusion of friends. I guess that is the case for a lot of people because those are the two areas that I often hear “experts” say go at it alone to “get comfortable with your own company.”
Last week I was invited to the Make A Wish Foundations Event for the reopening of California Pizza Kitchen in Lenox Square Mall. I extended the Plus One to 3 different people: The-closest-thing-to-a-bestfriend; The-regular-hang-out-buddy and The-one-I-want-to-get-reaquainted-with.
All three couldn’t make it or had other plans that night. So, I went it alone.
It’s strange to feel the slight discomfort of being one for dinner. I think the hostess felt it too because she offered to seat me at the bar. I declined and chose a booth that was bigger than my Oneness needed but was more comfortable and less transient feeling. I didn’t come to drink, after all. I came to eat alone. I get that the hostess was probably giving me the company of other Ones, so I hold no malice towards her but to truly push outside the comfort zone of enjoying a grand reopening party alone, I needed to have the full eating alone experience where it was obvious and deliberate.
And I did. And at times it felt lonely. But I experiences my Oneness fully and occasional I took notes and pictures of my food like the true Blogger I am. This experience couldn’t have happened at a better time. Both my brother and our cousin share the November 16th date of birth. He celebrated for both of them as she recently passed away last month. Amid the balloons and complementary meal, I made a wish and celebrated both of them too.
What are you willing to push through and do?
Thought you should know.
Make A Wish Foundation Pre Launch at California Pizza Kitchen. Atlanta GA
As a regular traveler and someone who loves to fly, I started to think about where that love came from. I am thankful that my earliest mode of transportation was the airplane. Before I could speak full sentences I was traveling back and forth to the twin islands of Trinidad and Tobago with my great-grand-parents. The comfort I get from a plane is in stark contrast to the stories I hear from people who are afraid to fly.
Unfortunately I was weened on airline travel in an era when a checked bag was standard with all flights, not just international and you could lock those things to avoid sticky fingered baggage handlers. Now, thanks to extra fees and the inability to lock checked bags, (even if you wanted to pay for them on a domestic or are going internationally and get a free checked one but want to avoid theft somewhere along that long bag handling chain) I’m forced to retrain my brain and make it ALL fit in a carry-on. This is a huge dilemma for someone like me who wants to pack a different shoe for every outfit.
In my quest for retraining I was proactive. I joined a large travel group. I’m making travel plans with far-flung family members. I’m evaluating the fact that the ticketing agent on the recent return trip from Montreal asked if my bag was “pregnant.” Thankfully he didn’t make me do the fit test nor did he charge me or worse, force me to rearrange it in the middle of the airport with my personal items exposes to all nearby travelers.
I am committed to retrain my brain and I’m starting with realizing that:
The show opens with Barbra Streisand‘s With One More Look at Look at You (from A Star Is Born 1976).
In studio we have Inga O (@Inga_O) and Tiffany (@savylifeTIP), Katia (@Katia Kool) calling n from California.
The show’s Perspectives is The Press KIT version of Hot Topics and this week’s topic was Bloomingdale’s “Spike your best-friend’s eggnog while they aren’t looking” Christmas catalog ad. The ad brought a barrage of criticism on Twitter. The Co Host give their perspectives around it.
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The main topic of this recording of The Press KIT with Inga O & Co. is called “Self Care Habits of Highly Effective Caregivers” with our in studio guest Jenny Heuer. She shared a sweet story of her grand-mother and how that got her to working with The Alzheimer’s Association of Georgia. Jenny Heuer also shared her personal email address if anyone listening needs specific care-giving help.
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Musical Credits: Barbra Streisand “With One More Look”; “Willow Weep For Me” from A Star Is Born 1976. Elvis Costello “Veronica” from Spike 1989.
Today on the The Press KIT with Inga O & Co. we share our perspectives on Justin Trudeau, the newly appointed Prime Minister of Canada who is making quite a stir with his Liberal views. Co Host Katia talks about life as a new transplant from Atlanta to Arcata CA. Co Host Inga O shares about her recent return from Montreal Canada.
When I am old and gray I really don’t think I’ll care about the amount of stuff (designer; expensive or labeled with other peoples names) I have accumulated or the corporate ladder I had to climb but instead that I enjoyed those who came into my life. That I laughed often and danced without a care as to who was watching, even when my feet hurt. So I aim to do that now. I don’t want to have regrets so I try to be a little better today than yesterday. I try to bring a little sunshine into the lives of those I interact with while I’m around. I never know how long I’ll be around, nor do I know how long they will either.
Last Saturday night I went to the WRFG 89.3 FM Pledge Drive Wrap Party. I brought an abundance of fruit, I convinced people to buy raffle tickets for the station and I engaged with as many people as I could. I got drinks for people sitting in the audience and overall did what I could to make people feel welcomed. That to me is what having a good time is, connecting with new people and ensuring that we all have a good time together.
I guess one good turn deserves another because I was offered the chance to go to Angie Stones’ Album Release Party for her new album Dream. The chance to see her in concert was not planned but right on time. It happened, I’d say, because I chose to show up and as a result, was rewarded by the universe because I don’t believe in coincidences. I even found a dime on our way into the venue!
WRFG 89.3 FM’s Director of Operations, Wanique Shabazz
Banana Republic cuffed pants; BCBGirls* Shoes
“Dance like no one is watching…even if your feet hurt”