“The ebb and flow of life can knock you down, as long as it doesn’t take you out.” ~Inga O
That is what I tell myself. That is why I am not afraid to share the reinventions of Inga O, no matter how many times I have to do it. I’ll be the first one to admit I don’t have it all figured out and smile when I say (truthfully) that I no longer care to figure it all out but instead choose to live in the now. I feel like a self inflicted burden, like a too heavy weight around one ankle was removed when I decided strive to have experiences that I can accumulate that will add up to a life well lived.
I thought it fitting that on the first day of the month and the first day of the week I will relaunch a better version of myself. I call it Inga O 5.0!
Inga O 5.0 does all of the great stuff the former versions did but now with the added features of focusing on being more present while setting and accomplishing lofty goals.
I read that we have about 30,000 days to live and that when we count our time left in days rather than years we realize that we don’t have as much time as we may think we have. Counting by years makes us feel like we have lots of time, counting by days doesn’t. So, I’m learning to love everyday and make it count. Here’s what I did:
- I figured our how long I expect to live and came up with 35,770 days. I subtracted how many years I’ve already used and converted them to days along with how many days I should have left and I got 19,710 days. Starting today, each one of those days needs to count! I choose to live on purpose. I will have fun everyday.
- I reverse engineered my 19,710 days so I can figure out what I need to get done and by when to have the end goals I want. For example, if you want to have certain goal by age 70, what do you have to do at age 68, 66, 65, 50 etc.
- I gave myself a mantra. Susie Orman said “People first, then money, then things.” I like it and I know a good mantra is a nice, quick reminder to keep me on track. This is really important for me because I can get down on myself when things don’t go according to plan and I can get stuck when the key is to get back in motion.
The above made this one of my best days ever. Perspective is everything. I hope you are inspired and will set and reach for your own goals.
You Should Know
“Not one drop of my self-worth depends on your acceptance of me” Quincy Jones
The day I realized that no matter what you do, there will be people who just don’t like you was the day that I set myself free. Prior to that faithful day I was the pleaser. Always wanting everyone to like me and invite me and include me and feeling personally slighted when it didn’t happen. “Why wasn’t I invited?” What did I do wrong?” “How could I have been nicer?“ These questions would swim around my head like angry Piranha gnawing at my brain for days, weeks and sometimes months. I was a hopeless people pleaser and couple that with a mild manner and fear of speaking up and you get an easy target.
I remember the day that all changed well. It was a sunny day and I had on my High School uniform: Blue plaid skirt, crisp white shirt, navy blue socks and black penny loafers; all regulation at the old, all girl private catholic school on the hill. My hair was straightened and blew in the warm breeze. After school I would go the long way to my mother’s hair salon, pass the area guaranteed to have the most boys who looked like me. I was an anomaly at school, one of two Afro-Caribbean girls in a grade level comprising of 3 classes. Was it a coincidence that we were placed in the same class? That fact really didn’t matter because I was alone in the expression of our culture. AS soon as the bell rang I was on the train headed to the part of town none of my school mates would dare venture into. Looking back now through mature eyes and life’s wisdom; I realize that I was an anomaly there too. I couldn’t see it then as I desperately sought acceptance and approval. I wanted to belong. I wanted everyone to like me. I needed to fit in…somewhere. So I did all I could to get others to realize that I was nice/kind/loving/friendly/loyal. And if they didn’t “get it” at first I would just try harder. Make them realize how great I am. Yet, that faithful day as I walked along the cracked sidewalk, pondering God-knows-what I had a moment that Oprah would later coin as “an AHA.” I realized that some boys just wouldn’t like me. Maybe I didn’t fall for them. Sleep with them. Give them something that they wanted. I realized that some girls just wouldn’t like me either. Maybe I had a big bum. Maybe I had hair that was too long. Maybe their boyfriends looked at me in that certain way. It had nothing to do with me.
That faithful day the light bulb went on and I realized that since I can’t please everyone and make them all like me, I may as well stop trying and please myself. Some will, some won’t, so what. I decided to enjoy the company of those who wanted to be around me and wish the others well on their journey. Empowerment was earned that day, as I walked along the crack riddled sidewalk, hair blowing in the wind with a smile on my face.
I thought you should know.
I made a pact with myself and then with my friend Judy O at the end of August that September would be different. September 2014 would mark a new beginning. 2014 is more than half over and it’s time to actually plan to end it with a bang I thought. We decided to have an early lunch and life decided that we “Make a Day of It,” you can read all about that here. By the end of that day we knew that we were in it together.
Between that optimistic and eventful start to September and our promises of holding each other accountable, life continued to propel us forward. She called and texted and would have sent smoke signals to let me know that she got us complementary tickets to Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend. Not only did we meet over an episode of Oprah’s Giveaway Show we just talked about embracing September as a month of new beginnings. The Weekend event was all about new beginnings. It fit in perfectly and I was thrilled that she thought of me while life was clearly providing more information for us to use to move us forward.
As I sit here I realize that I’ve been grumpy, tearful and anxious all week and because of it I have been focused on all the wrong things: what I do not have or have not accomplished. I guess we all can take a time out for a whiny break but I know I just can’t get suck. I am ready to continue on the adventure that life has me on. Time to dust myself off and get back on the wagon. I don’t know where it will lead but I am making a promise to myself to put in the time to find out.
I thought you should know.
My last shoe count was 101 as you can see on the left but that’s not an accurate number. I have been buying shoes and have lost count of my true and present total. So I have to gather all my shoes AGAIN to count them. I’m not looking forward to that so that is why I’ll be sticking with 101 for now.
I attempted to buy these shoes for $25 on ideeli but my size disappeared so fast that I was panicked. The problem with being panicked is that it often leads to poor judgment and impulsive behaviour.
I got these instead and as soon as I saw the miniature pink Penny Loves Kenny box I knew in my gut I made a poor choice. The shoes came folded up and honestly looked like house slippers. No thank you! Not to mention they made my feet look so flat and wide. Oh they had to go back alright.
Luckily when I put on these Penny Loves Kenny yellow shoes the brand redeemed themselves. I was just about to write off the entire brand but these are actually cute on and built like real shoes and not house shoes. They are leather and also only $25. I’d say I lucked out with these. I bought these back in March and they fit right in with this summers colour blocking trend. Yes, I’m ahead of the curve!
♥ Inga O ♥
I’ve been travelling all summer and took a blogging break. Quite honestly I missed sharing my thoughts and connecting with people near and far but I wanted to take the time and focus on quality time with my guy, my friends and family in Canada and my girls trip to Curacao. I’ll be sharing the photographs I’ve collected over the summer with you soon. Until then enjoy my latest theme song by Ciara.
What: (#14)Luna Rosa Shoes in Natural
When: Friday, March 12st, 2011 for a Pre-Birthday dinner with Randy of This That and Thensome
Where:Buckhead Dinner 3073 Piedmont Road, Atlanta, GA 30305
With: Giorgio Fiorlini Shirt that I got from a Finders Keepers Bag sale, dark washed jeans and Guess Collection clutch.
My guy, who is also my photographer when I twist his arm, got revenge and cut off my head. Good help is so hard to find!
I like all of the different textures in these shoes. I bought them at a boutique that went out of business.
As far as comfort goes they are not too bad either.
The Shoeperwoman challenge is on week 14 and I’m on my 14th pair saved. I have to pick up the pace or I’ll be donating and /or throwing out the rest.
♥ Inga O ♥
I got a package from UPS today with my jar of Jane Carter’s Curl Defining Cream. Interestingly enough, I had just sent an email reminder yesterday because I purchased the product at the recent World Natural Hair Show despite her being sold out. She agreed to ship it to me and I completely trusted that she would.
This was not my first dealing with Jane Carter and I must say she is one of the nicest women! I was fortunate to have her cut and style my hair last year and she really left a positive impression. She did give me some samples of the Curl Defining Cream along with other samples back then but my hair soaks up so much product that I wanted to ensure that I had enough on hand.
I will do a post once I use it. Sometimes I am so lazy when it comes to doing my hair but I’m committed to doing it more regularly.
Here’s what Jane Carter has to say about the Curl Defining Cream:
♥ Inga O ♥